I don't think it helps that I've mostly been in fandom spaces where "antis" get a large following. So of course, people who don't necessarily agree with them will unfortunately be quieter.

>> I kind of found myself in a similar situation to yours when I came back to fandom a few years ago, writing a lot of fluffy fics for a particular ship and ending up in communities that I only realised later were "anti" (which was new to me) and so unsafe for me.

I've definitely run into the issue of people seeing that I ship similar ships to them, so they assume I have the same opinions as them. That has always ended in disaster lol, so I totally get what you mean.